Abuse In Relationships
Abuse in relationships is very destructive for everyone in the family unit. Males and females abuse and coming to see a counsellor for this issue can pose many challenges; including feeling safe to disclose, the fear of exposing the abuser, anxiety, panic, or even traumatizing to reveal your story. Abuse in relationships often begins in subtle ways and escalates over time. You may “feel like” you are going crazy, suffocating, or walking on egg shells in your relationship. Maybe you’ve been treated for anxiety or panic attacks, or even been hospitalized. Perhaps addictions are rooted in the abusive behaviour. You may be suffering from anxiety or panic attacks. You may feel that you won’t be heard or believed. Whether it is physical abuse – social abuse—emotional abuse – sexual abuse – financial abuse – spiritual abuse or psychological abuse, there is a way out. Abuse is about power and control and abusers use a variety of tactics to manipulate you to exert their power over you.
Summary: Abuse can happen to your mother, father, wife, husband, child, teenager, sibling, friend, colleague or boss. The problems of abuse within a relationship happens too often and is still often overlooked, excused or denied. The first step to stopping the abuse is to acknowledge that it exists, and then work to end the abuse. Abusers pick and choose whom to abuse, when and where, to stop the abuse when it benefits them. Violent abusers direct their physical blows where they won’t show. No one should have to live in fear. Too many abused victims believe that help is not available to them. They feel they do not have a “voice”. Reaching out is the most critically important first step to getting out of the abuse. Use your voice and exercise your right to seek help.