Anger Management

Anger Management CounsellingAnger is a normal, usually healthy emotion. Anger is not a behavior. Anger is intended to protect us from harm, help us get our needs met, and to keep us from falling into despair. Managed correctly or kept in check, anger is a healthy ally in our lives. Conversely, stuffing feelings down, pretending you have dealt with them, or finally exploding or “getting loaded”; these are not healthy ways of dealing with anger. Sometimes depression is anger turned inwards. When anger fuels aggressive or destructive behaviours, it is definitely problematic and can lead to legal issues. Anger, the behavior, can alienate us from people, it can be destructive in our significant relationships, and can push us further into isolation, loneliness and despair. It can fuel guilt, shame, remorse and inferiority. Anger, the behavior, can lead us to do things we will regret. Anger can be fueled by past events, maybe from our childhood that is playing out in a “current triggering situation”. Anger can be a sign that a deeper underlying mental health issue is present. Anger is a serious problem when abuse, aggression and/or violence are present. Drug and alcohol may mask issues of anger temporarily; but drugs and alcohol use may make anger worse. If you find yourself tense, frustrated, simmering just below the surface, arguing with people often, people don’t want to be around or they disappoint you, and it is possible you or a loved one has problems with the feeling and the behavior. Anger control is difficult for many people. Anger can be abusive to self and others. Anger can turn into rage. With help, the client who struggles with anger issues can uncover what lies at the root of their frustration or rage. The client can identify their triggers and learn healthy coping or avoidant strategies and skills. They also learn what their relapse cycle is and learn to abort the relapsing behavior before it spirals out of control.